DISSAPPOINTMENT 101 april 1998
face facts
about the incredible disappointment it is,
when things do not go as we expected them to…..
our small perspectives are not a big picture
and the truth is, why things happen as-they-do, is a mystery that cannot be solved.
if we feel abused or treated unfairly because things are the way they are…
we experience life as a tortured ordeal. what cure can there be?
unless we have commitment, to look beyond the “seeming appearances” to glimpse what might be good about the way-things-are, there will be no surcease of pain and violation as we review all the ways life appears unfair…
as we elucidate, all the injustice… all the ways we are forlorn when people did what they wanted instead of what was expected, we can talk forever…
there is no end.
thousands of women, growing up earlier than today were raised to think they would experience latter day awards for noble behaviors and sacrifices…..instead, new generations say you can have it all….
don’t give up your dreams to raise a family.
many men married, thinking the burden of providing for a family would be more fun than it is, and that they too would be rewarded rather than expected to do more, better and faster, are disappointed.
nations betray citizens. services fall short. customers complain. bosses misunderstand. children are ungrateful. feelings of entitlement are unrecognized everywhere…. the field of disappointment is the biggest wild growth morass with fresh add-ons everyday. yet, over and over surprise and shock accompanies disappointment adding more importance to the trivial fact that,
DISAPPOINTMENT IS INNATE IN LIFE.
it is a fact. it is not going to go away. it will not dry up. to be surprised by it, over and over, is incongruent in any grown up’s honest experience. disappointment is as all pervasive, and necessary, as the soil we set our feet too, each day. there is no perspective which could reveal the all-over-pattern-of-everything. all we see, is the small part we are looking at. how could we comprehend the interactions demanded by the patterns? how could we explain action’s agenda?
how could we suppose to see all the nuances?
the big picture cannot be wholly known from the pieces.. my heart will never see my face. my cat may never meet a tiger. your reward may not fit your picture… it could even be invisible. this does not mean it does not exist.
this does mean more disappointment.
what will it take to have disappointment and stop thinking something is wrong when we experience it?
what will it take to embrace what will not go away?
what will it take to change our minds so disappointment has it’s niche.
what will it take to make disappointment an accepted section of the picture?
every disappointment i have known has turned into a blessing
…when i allowed it.
